This may seem a strange topic, but it popped into my head the other day.
Would you ever pay for sex?
My guess is that most of you are saying no reasoning ‘why pay for something you can get for free.’ Fair enough, so let’s talk about water for a minute.
"Water? What’s that got to do with paying for sex?" Bear with me and I’ll explain.
Although water is (more or less) free, I still pay for bottled water. Why? Well, although it may not necessarily be healthier, the bottled water I buy tastes a hell of a lot better than the tap water here in Phoenix. That means I am apt to drink more of it which is healthier for me. I also enjoy the convenience of the sealed bottle. I can load them up in my fridge in on their side if I need to, and the bottles make it easy for me to grab cold water to take with me in my car or wherever I go. With tap water, I have to fill up my own bottle which often might leak and isn’t very cold unless I’ve remembered to fill up a pitcher and put it in the fridge. (For the record I do recycle my plastic water bottles to minimize the environmental impact, but this isn’t a discussion about being green.)
So to boil it down (pardon the pun), I buy bottled water because it provides me a better overall experience (e.g. taste) and convenience.
Now let’s apply that to sex. I have no doubt that you, my loyal
readers reader, can go out and find someone to have sex with for free. But what if by paying for the sex, you could have a premium sexual experience?
Imagine that you could hire a person that physically you find extremely attractive? For the charge you pay, you also can arrange a date and time as well as place, be comforted in knowing that the person will be clean and disease-free, and be assured that your sexual needs will be met. That to me sounds a whole lot better than spending time trying to find someone who may or may not have a STD and might be into things sexually that you’re not comfortable with.
So why not pay for sex? Oh yes… the morality issue.
"Sex should only be for procreation." "Sex should only be with someone you love." "Sex should only be between married couples."
My guess is that you, my loyal blog
readers reader, have probably had sex outside those conditions regardless of how good or moral you are. That’s because, unlike what the religious right would have you believe, sex is natural and sex is fun. (Wait a minute; did I just quote a George Michael song there?) We have sexual desires because it’s part of our human biology. While sex with someone you love is fantastic, sex just for fun can be incredible too. Despite the American psyche, sex is not something to be afraid or fear.
"But it’s immoral to buy sex!"
It is? According to who? Your religious values? Well my values tell me that’s immoral for you to buy a gas-guzzling Hummer to drive around town when a smaller, more efficient vehicle would serve you just fine.
So I’ll ask you again: would you ever pay for sex?
Now I suspect that many people will miss the point of this post. This post is not about legalizing prostitution (although I think it should be). It’s about examining what you believe and why. Why do you believe what you do? If you want to grow and develop as a person, you shouldn’t be afraid to scrutinize your principles. You may come away with a deeper understanding of your values system. It’s ok to believe what you do, but you should comprehend why. Unfortunately too many people today, particularly Americans, let their political and moral beliefs be handed to them by others: their parents, their religion, or the talking heads on TV. They don’t think for themselves.
And that, my friends, is truly immoral.
DISCLAIMER: I am not advocating that you go out and pay someone for sex. In most places, prostitution is illegal. If you don’t agree with a law, work to change it. Don’t break it. Furthermore I want to clarify that I myself am not currently wanting to pay anyone for sex. I am completely happy in my relationship with Buckaroo. In our eleven plus years together, I have never had sex with anyone but him.
(This is the post I wrote yesterday that I completely lost. I hope it was worth the wait. And yes, I’m totally stealing Bossy’s technique of highlighting individual blog readers.)